Letting Down Our Guard

“Whenever you are waiting for anything in order to live and love without holding back, you suffer.

Every moment is the most important moment of your life.

No future time is better than now to let down your guard and love.”

-David Deida


Whenever I hear the phrase “gratitude journal” I feel my stomach sinking with guilt. How many times did I hear Oprah or one of her guests encourage their viewers to grab a pen and a notebook, make a commitment, and begin acknowledging the wonder that is present in their lives every day for 30 days. And how many times did I join them and the thousands of viewers on this quest for cultivating gratitude only to fizzle out on my commitment by (or before) day 5? Maybe I need more will power or the ability to make commitments or start challenges that I am fully motivated to continue or complete.

Or maybe…I can scratch all of that self-blaming and self-criticism that floods my mind. Maybe, just maybe, I can feel grateful for the opportunity to begin again? To know that I don’t have to do what Oprah says to be a spiritually guided or centered person. Perhaps, I can follow my inner guide instead. And this inner guide is downright giddy about the following aspects of my life for which I feel grateful in this moment:

The sunset viewable over the NYC skyline
Watching my kitten spot a squirrel outside and acting with more urgency than I feel when trying to catch a subway car when running late
An unexpected (albeit terrifying) week off where I feel like I have finally caught my breath
A future dinner date with one of my very best friends
A clean apartment
An apartment!
Family coming in town this weekend
My dear husband

The list of my blessings goes on and on and on. So why then dwell on what I do not have? The truth is, I make the choice whether or not I see and appreciate the blessing in my life. For it is my response to the events in my life that determines my happiness or misery, freedom or resentment, bliss or obligation, fulfillment or dissatisfaction. I choose happiness, freedom, bliss, and fulfillment which today means that I focus on all that I have. And I have it all. As long as I make the conscious effort to see it that way.

To living and feeling grateful in this moment and the next,


Granting Myself Permission to Thrive

I just spent an entire week at home in NC. Although it’s absolutely wonderful in many ways, the trip tends always to be seriously taxing.

In trying to balance the needs of our parents, my needs went right out the window, especially when it comes to my health and spiritual needs. No one asks me to chuck my peace into outer space, but I do it. Unconsciously.

But now that I’m home, now that my time is no longer obligated to anyone, I find myself faced with an interesting predicament: the power of choice. In all things. In every moment.

Could I then choose that which makes me happiest? The moments that support me–thriving?

What does it look like? It looks like me doing what I want.

In every moment.

And that’s the key…that I am IN every moment.

And so I begin to practice: living in the present, the Now.

Embracing uncertainty.


Here marks my first attempt to write, create, and publish without attachment to a particular result. Questions of “who will read this blog? Who will care? What if ‘they’ hate me?” are officially deemed unhelpful. This is a space where I practice non-judgment towards myself and others. A space where I can explore and challenge myself into taking steps every day towards tapping into my authentic, sacred self.

I will write, live, and love as the spirit moves…without self criticism or judgment. It starts now—my creative journey to love myself and others more fully. Let the adventure begin!